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Open Relationships, Polygamy, And Where The Line Is

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Open the year solo with a candid run through romance in the kitchen, the realities of open relationships and poly life, and what honesty with kids actually looks like. Then break down J. Cole’s next move, double-album risks, and why T.I.’s return has real promise.

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You already know the what it do what it is. You already know the bass is your boy, Mr. Bell, aka say your name but on his pie. Mine up with you to my welcome to another episode of Hold Up in Another Thing presented by Mixed Vass Media. You know what I'm saying? Y'all already know the vibes. Happy New Year. Um, this is the first episode from Hold Up in Another Thing of 2026. So first off, it's gonna be a solo pod. I ain't got no guests today. It's just it's just me. I'm gonna uh I'm gonna I said I was gonna do this more last I think it was last year or 2024, one of them years, and I said I was gonna do it more, and I ain't never really actually got around to doing it more. I think I did one last year after the WNBA finals, but other than that, I haven't done a solo pod since. So that's what I'm doing today. Like, I'm I got the video set up. Like, this is not gonna come out on YouTube more than likely. This is really just going to be a podcast. But I was like, all right, man, I ain't did nothing this year, I ain't lined nothing up. Okay, let me go on and get on her because it's some it's a it's a um it's an Instagram reel that I had seen with Thermore talking about his relationship status. But before we before I get into that and I discuss that, I wanted to first get into so I was at uh I was having a conversation and she was like, we should make that together and we should cook together in the kitchen. And in my head, that sounds so more romantic, that sounds so romantic. But in dude, ain't that kind of like ain't it kind of difficult? Because it ain't even got the matter of the size of the kitchen. Us being together in the same space, trying to figure out uh how much you're gonna season this, or how much soy sauce to put in this, or how much not how little soy sauce to put in this, or do you use sauce? Some people don't even use salt when they're cooking, which they use just straight seasoning sauce. People use black peppermint sauce. It you know, the cooking together, it sounds romantic. But when you actually get in that kitchen to do it, I think it's gonna be harder than it seemed to like it's gonna be tight in that kitchen. I'm moving her, I'm moving this way, you moving that way. If we but I think you know, it might be a good thing if you know we get together in that kitchen and we move like a beautiful orchestra and ain't no missus, then maybe that's a sign that hey I know we we know each other, we in tune, we intertwine. That's a good look, but yeah, I don't know. I was just wondering like, damn, is cooking together really something that is feasible or doable, or will we end up getting there? I mean, is it a sexy thing, or will we end up getting on each other's nerves? I think that's the question like cooking together. Do we end up do we work together in a good way, or do we end up getting on each other's nerves to the fact that we don't even want to do it no more? But that was just the it's just a quick thought that I had had about the situation. I also say happy new year at the beginning of this, and it is what is this January 18th? Like it's January 19th, and I get that it's like the first episode, but it's like super late. Like, man, people don't people that said they want on uh well, no, all our uh dry January, they already had their drink right now, New Year New Me, which ain't as ain't as popular now, but New Year's new me people already need to quit going to the gym, and I'm over here talking about some happy new year. But, anyways, happy new year, you know what I'm saying? But nah, so to the the to hear more thing, first off, I love to hear. I saw to hear it, probably it was sometime last uh sometime two years ago, he came here with uh Kev on stage and hilarious. Kev on stage was funny, but to hear tour that down. You hear me? To hear more tore it down, like bruh, super hilarious. Like he comes back to the city. I'm definitely going to check him out. But he talked about he was on uh full pumps, you know what I'm saying? Shout out to uh now. I can't now I can't think of their names, even though I'm just I uh I know them and I have watched her. They came from horrid horrible decisions, but they do decisions. I think it's decisions, decisions now, but uh yeah, uh Weezy, uh Wheezy and then uh Mel uh Mel, ain't it? Uh Mel Mel. What is her name? Jesus. I don't even forget that woman's name, but anyway, shout out to uh Mandy, Mandy, sorry, Mandy, sorry. I said Mel, Mandy, but yeah, but now shout out to them. Uh this is crazy disrespect I just showed. It was not intentional. I just forgot their names that quick. But so he was on a podcast and he was talking about how he had him and his wife had the conversation with their daughter about you know uh polygamy, that's what's uh polygamy, or they was gonna, and then they had a separate conversation about open relationships. And as a parent, I'm sitting here trying to figure out how do you have that conversation? Like he said, he's an entertainer, he's seen all over the world, bruh be on tour, doing a bunch of different things, and he didn't want the picture to give back to his daughter of him kissing on another woman, and then she be the last to find out, which I respect and I I totally respect and I understand because you want your child who's living in this house that y'all making y'all were making decisions that's gonna eventually affect this child. Totally respect him having a conversation. I'm just trying to figure out how I would even start that conversation, or what do I say to my son to be like, so yeah, me and your mama, we're gonna be out here doing our own thing with other people. And I know that's not how the conversation is supposed to store. I know it ain't how it's supposed to be said, but that's how I talk. So be out here, like, yeah, nah, me and your mama, yeah, we're gonna do our own one, two, three, and you might see me with somebody, you might see her with somebody else. It's cool, no heart feelings. I don't think the conversation is gonna go over as well as their conversation did, because I guess you have to have you have to take the time and the patience to actually have that conversation. But besides having the conversation with your child, the thought of one of the thought of me an open relationship. Let's start with the open relationship, right? Having an open relationship says that I'm okay with you going at her to do what you do while I still go do what I do. I don't know if I'm okay with you doing what you do. It's so for me and everybody, I'm talking about for me personally, that's ain't about uh this ain't like no shots to her or whoever lives that open relationship. If y'all live that open relationship lifestyle, please inform me to let me know. But let your thoughts, you know what I'm saying? Let me know what y'all thoughts is. But to be in an open relationship, I have to be okay with knowing some other body, some other man is knocking your boots off, somebody else is pulling your hair. You get what I'm saying? Some other at her, some other guy at her sucking on your toes and shit, and I'm supposed to just be okay with that because I'm not her doing what I'm doing with this other young lady. Is the I don't know if the trade-off is worth it, if I'm being honest, is the trade-off worth me being able to do what I do want to do for who I want to for touch on and suck on and lick on whoever I want to, knowing the fact that you sucking on and licking on whoever you want to. I just think that would drive me crazy. I'm not at that level of matureness yet, I guess, because I'm definitely not there. I'm still hell, I'd be tripping when I heard look, bro. I don't even want to hear about your exes at this point. That's where I'm at with it. I don't even want to hear about your exes. But to know while I'm sitting here watching football on on this Sunday night, and you saying, Hey, I'm ready to step out. Step out where? Step out with who? So I'm in here watching football while you sucking on somebody else's bottles. I don't but because I just because we open and somebody, I just I don't know. I don't think I'm that level, I'm not ready for that type of relationship. And then to go another step further, just using using TikTok situation as an example to know that okay, I have a girlfriend, I found me somebody else. But me and my wife are still together, but she found somebody else, and they had her going on vacations and stuff. Again, that's a whole nother level of level of maturity that I do not possess because for who and for what? And I you know, I looked at the comment sections, and a lot of the comment sections said the first thing that I thought of is why y'all even still together at this point. But marriage is like open relationship, I guess I can understand more because it's like all right, maybe we we got everything else right, we just missing the sex part. So you're free to go do who you want, and I'm free to go do who I want. I can understand that more. I ain't saying I'm I'm strong enough to do it, mentally capable of doing it, but I can understand it more. But if we are living a poly life, and like you said, one if like he said, they was looking for the third, but they end up just being in separate relationships. But if y'all in separate relationships, I really stay in the y'all staying married for the business part of it. From my perspective, or from what I'm taking from it is that we're staying together from the business perspective of it, not even the loving and the the all the aspects of a relationship that doesn't involve sex. Because that's what an open relationship to me is. We we still hold all the aspects of a relationship. We still do all those things, you know. Hell, the having dinners together, you know, doing the family trips and all of that, and we sitting here watching the movie, having popcorn and whatever the case may be, like all the smaller details of a relationship into larger details of a relationship, we still do all of those things. We just got our rust off with other people. To me, that's what an open relationship is. Once you go to that poly lifestyle where you got a relationship and I got a relationship, then what are we why why are we married? Are we just staying married for the sake of saying we're married or we have kids or whatever the case is so we don't want the kids to break up? So whatever the case may be, I'm just wondering at what point do you just say, is it worth it? You get what I'm saying? Is it is it worth it? And then I don't want to go on vacation with my wife and her boyfriend, and they, you know, me uh, me and my shorty, we got finished, and they still end up going for round three. And she like, nah, I'm tired, I'm ready to lay it down. Oh, oh, it's vacation. They end up knocking the boost, they going round after round after round. I don't know if I want her that, then I'm gonna be upset, then I'm ready to go. Like, nah, that's my wife. She wants another round, I'm gonna be the one to give it to her. See, and you can't really do that, but that's what I'm gonna want to do. So hey, it takes another level. Is it maturity or I don't know if it's maturity or I don't give a like that's a whole nother level of that I don't possess. I don't know if it's maturity or just me and I don't give a fuck, and we just separated, we're moving on doing our own separate things. I don't know, whatever the case may be. Y'all let me know in the comments. All right, just so switchbirds a little bit. J. Cole dropped his uh this two track to song. And you know, the hype is coming out, the fall-off is coming, and can I be honest? I'm not a hundred percent sure I'm sold quite yet on the J. Cole experience. We know J. Cole is gonna drop bars, that's without question. He's always done that. You know he's gonna rub his ass off. He's always been capable of doing that. But see, so for me, the thing with the J. Cole, I'm gonna call it the J. Cole experience now is after the beef, you fall out of, you bow gracefully out of the beef. I ain't gonna say gracefully. Gracefully is probably not the right word, but you bow out of the beef, you bow out of the battle, and then I don't know if I want to hear you. I don't know if I want to hear Jake Cole like I'm him, anybody can get it. Don't nobody want to smoke with me. You already proven that when it was time for the smoke, you ran from the smoke. And I get that the Drake and the Kendrick beef went in a whole separate direction, and that's not what Cole thought it was gonna be. Cole thought it was gonna be for the sport, which I think Kendrick, I thought I think Kendrick wanted that's what Kendrick wanted. Kendrick didn't want it to become personal. Drake was gonna make it personal because Drake, we beef him. If you diss me, I don't think I'm supposed to be friendly and just we ain't out here having fun. That's uh from I think I think from Drake's perspective, he looked at it as man, we ain't here having fun, we ain't here just kicking it. You diss me, I'm gonna go hard at you as a word. Kendrick was just doing it as the I'm gonna sharpen my, I'm sharpening my knives, I'm sharpening my skills. We can do that. But once it got personal, then I just I'm gonna keep going. And I get it. Like Cole, that ain't Cole was cool with it for the sport, but once he got personal colour, they won't do it. But I don't know if I want to hear you rap about how anybody can get it and you the best rapper and all of this other stuff. And yeah, you're not, you're not gonna do that. You're not gonna do it when it's time to do it. At least that's just that's just my thoughts. I I asked I asked Dion Dion from my perspective. I asked Dion. Dion's a big Cole fan. And Dion said, Yeah, nah, I still I still think he can rap like that because because uh just because that situation happened don't mean co, you know, co ain't gonna give it to whoever, the next person. But he already proved that he ain't gonna give it to whoever the next whoever it is. So I don't, at least me, I can only speak for me. I don't think I wanna hear Cole go like that. And then he also, with it being the name of the song, the name of the song that was released was this two track two. It'll foreshadows, I would seem to guess that it's gonna be a double album. Double albums are hard. You listen, you you think about double albums. Pac had a double album, classic, Biggie had a double album. Wu Tang had a double album, but it's different with Wu Tang. It's it's 30 of them. You know what I'm saying? It's easy to have a it's easy to have a double album when 30 of y'all rapping. Everybody get a solo track, then we have a couple positiv tracks, and then you, you know what I'm saying, you're good. But Jalen J done uh double disc on the Blueprint 2. It was a good album. I ain't gonna say it was it wasn't 444. You know what I mean? It wasn't like he had 444 and Reasoning Ruling Doubt put together. It was a good album, but I ain't saying it was a classic. Doing a double, doing a double disc is hard, and that's a lot of music. I think Cole can do it if done realistically, like, well, nowadays music ain't nothing but what's what's an album? 45 minutes, 30 minutes? Yeah, probably about 33 minutes, it's three, four minutes of track. So we'll be looking at an hour of music. One album probably has 12 or 13, the other one have 14. So it ain't, I don't think it's gonna be too crazy. But if Cole's gonna be out here trying to give you 43 tracks, then I think that's where the problem comes in. It's gonna be difficult. If he if he makes a classic album with 18, let's say 18 songs, he can add a couple filler, because he's been recording this for 10 plus years. Think about it. Dude has been talking about this Fallout album, which he mentioned it being his last album for 10 plus years. So he's got some songs. I wonder if we're gonna have features on it. If he's going to you because I keep hearing the theories of he's gonna have features from people who supposedly fall fallen off. So I guess that's where the camera, the verse for the verse will come in. Maybe you'll walk us. Maybe I'm trying to think of other rappers, or rappers or musicians in general who have fallen off, maybe a Missy, because you don't hear from Missy a lot. I would love to see, I would love to hear a J. Cho and Missy song. Well, another J. Cho and Missy song. I think that would go stupid. Dude, that would be great. Or maybe a Monica and Jaco. But I don't know if Monica is necessarily fallen off. It's different with RB. They take, they take breaks. But I want to see what the album, how he does the album, if it's a double disc, if he's gonna have features on it, and if so, what type of features? Are you going to have current day rappers? Are you gonna have some Madreamville on there? Or are you gonna go with rappers like your John Rule or 50 Cent people who are past, of course I was like two people that's who passed their crime, but who still got the bars, or who still can come up with some songs, come up with the lyrics, or whatever the case may be, or is he gonna go no features like he has done before? Go has gone platinum with no features. I also want to hear what he's rapping about. Because like I said from the beginning, I don't know if I want to hear Go talk about I want to smoke. I think I want to hear more so of this thought-provoking a reflection. Because if this is his last album and this is his grown man album, I'm married, man, with two, with two, two, two kids, three kids, whatever the case might be. I want to hear more of a reflection or more of a I I thought this through. This is my life now. I want Cole's 444 album. If that if that makes sense, that's what I want. I know a lot of people don't love like that album. I actually love that album. It's probably my favorite Jay album from from my uh the blank album. Yeah, I think I go blank album dead 444. But anyways, yeah, I want to hear what Cole did. Speaking of people who I guess you could say past Betty Brown, but from that snippet I heard, that boy ain't lost his prime. Tips coming back. He got he'd have cut the draws off, he had a bullied that man. Yeah, he was half fishing that herd. He cut them drills off and then he he back out here rapping. My cousin sent it to me as soon as I seen that. I said that reminds me of Tony uh sitting on Tony Foes Till back in the day. I'm serious till he got that hat tilted. Yeah, I'm excited to see that project. Y'all also bully him with that comedy, that comedy special. Um I ain't listened to it because I ain't not listened to it. I ain't watching because you know, T.I. one of my favorite rappers. I don't want to look at them different if it's bad. And a lot of y'all saying it's bad. I don't know if I won't look at it. Because then I'm gonna be looking at Tip different, and I don't wanna look at Tip different. But I am I am excited to hear this album. Hell, I would love a tip feature on the Drake Cup. That'll get Tip some give Tip some more juice to hype up his album. Because I'm at least the way that snippet went from what Tip did where he was in the after he was in the barbershop, cut their hair off, get on that car, start barring them up. Yeah, man. I mean, I'm excited. Can't wait for that album to drop. You ask me who I re who I want her more code, Tip, it's gonna be Tip. But anyway, man, hey man, appreciate y'all for listening to one of my solo voyages podcasts. That's what we're gonna call it solo voyages. You're gonna check out all the other mixed vibes, media, and all the content that we pushing. Like I said, I'm gonna try to do these more solo thoughts. Uh ain't really necessarily my bag, but we'll try them out a little more here and there, a little more off, especially so that way it don't be months in between me dropping podcasts. But yeah, man, y'all let me know in the comment section or whatever the case may be. Y'all already know the bass, it's your boy, Mr. Bell, aka say your name up on his pie. Might not with your offer tomorrow. Thank y'all for listening to another episode of Hold Up in another thing presented by Mix Vaz Media. We'll get at y'all later.

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