Hold Up, And Another Thing!!!!
"Hold Up And Another Thing" is a podcast that typically focuses on discussions surrounding current events, pop culture, and the complexities of modern life, often with a humorous twist. The host Mr. Bell and his guest engage in conversations that challenge common assumptions and explore various societal issues. The show delves into diverse topics, featuring interviews and discussions that provide insights into different perspectives. Each episode may cover a range of subjects, making it appealing to a broad audience interested in learning and exploring new ideas.
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Hold Up, And Another Thing!!!!
The Dating What-Ifs
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We get personal about dating what ifs, from the person who almost worked out to the one decision we wish we could take back. We break down how regret, timing, and unclear communication can keep you stuck, and what it looks like to finally choose peace and move forward.
• why everybody has a what if in dating
• a birthday mistake that changes the vibe
• mixed signals and why the slow fade hurts
• Teddy’s college what if showing up years later
• the hard truth about unanswered questions
• regret beyond the moment, including holding on too long
• why you should listen to what people say
• dating with standards, not just chemistry
• being a parent and protecting your child
• the family stamp of approval and the uncle test
• the bold confidence that makes you pick one person
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Welcome And Network Roll Call
SPEAKER_01Hey man, what do what it is? Welcome to another episode of Hold Up in Another Thing presented by Mix Vaz We the Yari and other vibes. It's your boy, Mr. Bell Lake. Hey, aka say your name up on the spot. Might not fit you to my uh. Now make sure y'all listen to all the podcasts up under Mixed Bash. Of course, the Mixed Vaz Power with me, Quag, and Jerve. From my perspective with me and Dion. Ho please, I said what I said with all the ladies over there. Distant combos with KS. Yeah, that's it. Oh, respectfully wrong with me and with Joe. Forgot about that one. It's always one, bro. It's always one that I that I'll be like, I feel like I'm missing one. I feel like I'm missing one. Yeah, so yeah. The last one. Respectfully wrong. Shout out to Joe. We're currently doing uh top 10 of the best feature artists. We did T-Pain, we did Wayne. So we got future coming up. I'm not really the biggest future fan. So we're gonna see how that we're gonna see how that go. Man, you better get on that Pluto wave, man. Man, I've been listening in, been listening in. I have been listening to a lot of future because I know future's coming up. And again, I'm not the future, I'm not really a future guy. I'm not a future fan. With Wayne, with uh with T-Pang, T-Paying, we did Drake. T-Paying and Drake was easy for me because I listened to T-Paying to Drake. Future's coming up. Wayne, we're gonna break down into two separate episodes. It's gonna be because it's too much music. Uh it's going to be, what was it? Uh Carter Two and no, is it Carter Two and Back, and then Carter three and going forward. The features. So it ain't nothing but the him being featured on that song.
SPEAKER_02That's that's a that's a lot.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, we really could break it down into three for real, but we was like, we're gonna do we're gonna leave it at two.
SPEAKER_02You could do mixed tape features, you could do album features, yeah. But features that's just singles.
SPEAKER_01It's so much, bro. Like, it's Lil Wayne was featured on so many daggone songs that it was it's it's damn near impossible. The other person we mentioned was Snoop Dogg. But Snoop Dogg been in the game for like what 40 years?
SPEAKER_02So basically since since the 80s, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, so it's like nah, we want to do Snoop, but Snoop might be a little too hard. Thanks. Because you have to do you have to do four episodes of 10-year incrementals, increments, like yeah. So so yeah, nah, but the voice, y'all, y'all should hear the voice right now. It's Teddy. What's going on, Teddy?
SPEAKER_02Just living, breathing. You feel me? Happy, bro. Just uh fresh out the barbershop on him.
SPEAKER_01Hey, but I saw it. I said, Oh, my boy done got fly out.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, man. I had a it's it's it's basically about the topic that we have today. It's the reason why your boy got cleaned up, man.
SPEAKER_01You know, the boy done got fly, but a topic we about to have. Uh so uh
Debating The Best Feature Artists
SPEAKER_01we're gonna have a conversation about what ifs. What ifs in dating or particular situations that was a what if? And it never, it's always that what could have been, what should have been. I think it is uh her feature bryson fill us off. What we could have been, what we should have been, if had you know what I mean.
SPEAKER_02So I feel like right, all of this other stuff, yeah.
SPEAKER_01I mean, so let me ask you this do you feel like everybody has a what if situation?
SPEAKER_02Most definitely. If you don't, I feel as though that you wasn't really out here, you wasn't trying because everybody has a situation where they sit back and be like, dang, what if me and Shorty would have got together? Or what if me and Shorty would have worked out, or what if I'd have never actually gave her what I wasn't supposed to give her, I wasn't supposed to hit it. That that's a what if too that a lot of people don't think about.
SPEAKER_01I was already saying, the what-ifs can go in multitude of ways, yeah. What if most people think of like the person that got away, type what-ifs, which those people have those, right? But there's also, like you said, the what-ifs on the other end of the spectrum of man, what if I didn't do this? Or what if I didn't go down this path? What if I made that left instead of making that right? And that happens to all of us. I know I've had some what-ifs in my past that I wish that I'd done differently.
SPEAKER_02We shit, we we all do, dog. I I can tell you, I I got a whole book I can write.
SPEAKER_01Oh man, I got some I got some situations and some scenarios that we're gonna talk about. Um, so we're gonna I'm gonna I'm
What Ifs In Dating Defined
SPEAKER_01gonna talk a little bit about one of my what ifs. And then if you want to share, you can go, then we're gonna go we're gonna bring the conversation back around. So my crazy thing is my I guess my my what if person also has a what if I didn't do this situation that's connected to it.
The Birthday Photo Regret
SPEAKER_01So I uh it was my birthday, and as you know, people tend to have drinks on their birthday.
SPEAKER_02Oof, dark life.
SPEAKER_01I'm gonna tell my what if I hadn't done this first, and then I'm gonna come back around into explaining how I got here. So, like I said, it was my birthday, and I was intoxicated. I was at a family function, I was talking to this young lady, and we had just started dating probably like a like a month before, because yeah, it was my birthday. So I I I slid in this woman's DM on Facebook in October of that year. So yeah, it was like it was a month. Uh but we had we had talk, we've been talking, you know. Once you start talking to a person, you really like that person, you talk to that person every day. I'm going on lunch. I'm taking my I'm taking my lunchtime to slide over to her crib on her lunch break. And we just chilling outside having a conversation. I remember her mama pulled up one time and she was spooked. Because we imagine we just outside talking and she like she got all nervous. I'm like, you know, all I did was say hi to your mom. You act like we done had whole conversation, we planted out you know, flowers for the wedding type stuff. All I did was speak to her, and then your mama went on in the house. You feel me? It wasn't even that big of a deal. But, anyways, so back to my birthday. It's my birthday, and again, intoxicated. I might have sent a picture. Yep, I might have sent a picture that I should have not sent of a personal area. Imagine, I'm in the middle of the park because we had a little get together for my birthday, but again, I'm intoxicated, I'm feeling myself. I'm trying to maybe set something up for after I leave, say a party. Cool. That person they got mad at me and they say, Enjoy your birthday. I'll talk to you later. We talked the next day, but you could tell the vibe was different. And we talked the day after that, but again, the vibe is different. They felt the way because of the simple fact. They was like, I thought you were different than the other dudes, but you showed out to be the other. You showed out to be the other, like the other guys. And I was like, I feel you, but I am. We continued to talk. So what confused me about it was after I sent the picture with us, we still talked for a for you know a couple more months, and everything seemed like it was cool until one day she was like, it's just a lot for me right now, and I can't deal with it. So let me start, let me circle back around. Back to October. Sending the warmth DMs, and I told her, like, hey, you know, this might sound crazy, but I got a uh I got a Facebook crush on you. You know what I'm saying? Open you and I, blah, blah, blah. I forgot what I said. It worked. Whatever I said, it worked. Cool. But she had just lost her brother. Like I told you prepod. She had just lost her brother a couple months. So she was, you know, she was like taking her time with everything. She wasn't rushing into nothing. Like I said, slaying to it. We we like I said, bro, we talking every day. I'm pulling up early lunch. Early lunch. Man, you ain't even do nothing. Teddy. I sent the picture, but we like I said, we still continue to talk. So the first time she came to my crib, it was just me and her. We sent her drinking, playing on up. Teddy, I ain't even touch her. Because she said she wanted she wanted to be different from other guys who was just bisexual. Like, cool, it's no problem. Teddy, I ain't touch her. I'm playing the music. I'm sitting across from her. I'm sitting across from her. I'm trying to give her all the distance in the world to let her know, like, hey, ain't no pressure. We ain't got to go that route. Because I really was feeling them. Fast forward, we driving on the way. I was taking her back to the crib. She put my hand on her thigh. I was like, oh, I ain't know. She said, Yeah, you didn't have to be. She said, I get I ain't want to do that, but you could at least, you know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02Could have warmed the plate up a little bit.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, she was like, You could have did that, right? I said, Man, look, look, after the incident, what happened? I was just going all the way left. Like, hey, we're not gonna do none of this. After I sent the picture, and you was, you know, you took it away. I we ain't gonna do none of this, which understanding. I understand why she took she took it away. I understand how we continue to talk after the fact. Dog, that that be the problem right there, yo. That that that's the thing that that's the one I didn't get. I'm gonna keep it all the way a buck is. We continue to talk. But, anyways, it's was this was years ago. We always kept in contact, and I would try, but she was like, I'm not, I'm not okay right now. Blah blah blah. Come out later, she was like, Yeah, we continued to talk, but after you sent the picture, I just wasn't feeling it no more. I was like, all right, cool. I wish you had said it then instead of telling me that it was, you know, you was just going through a lot. I wish you had told me that then. So Teddy, fast forward. It's a couple years later. We have conversations, but it ain't it ain't even frequent conversations. There's every once for every like six months. You all right, you cool, blah, blah, blah. I get a Snapchat message that's talking about uh Aries and a Scorpio. As you know, I'm a Scorpio. I'm like, yeah, that's crazy. That's that's I I really didn't know what to do with the story with the Snapchat. You feel me? She did. Yeah, she did. I really didn't. I didn't. I ain't even gonna lie. Because again, Teddy, I had tried throughout these couple years to rekindle whatever the situation was. Okay, I didn't know because and I always got told no. I didn't know, but I'm a brother, I didn't know. So I'm like, all right, we we talked, we had a conversation, we started talking more, she started texting every day. And eventually she basically said, she said, you ain't never, she basically I ain't never left her mouth. Even through all these years, you never left my mind.
SPEAKER_02I'm like, oh those are words that we want to hear.
SPEAKER_01Boy, ain't they? Yeah. At the time, I can't do I can't do nothing about it because my life is hey, my life went in other directions by this time. Because again, it's a couple years gone by. Right, yeah. So before I get into the feelings and all that about my what if situation, you got any stories you want to share?
Teddy’s Campus Fame What If
SPEAKER_02Oh shit.
SPEAKER_01Man, we're gonna straight, we're going straight to the stories, man.
SPEAKER_02I could first let's start off with my biggest what if my biggest what if probably was like sophomore year college. I was big to me. Not speaking for anybody else, but to me, I was big nigga on campus. You feel me? I worked for the dean, I was the SGA president, I worked at the sneaker store, uh, I DJ'd, and I did some other activities that a lot of people on campus came to see me about. You feel me? It was this girl that lived like North Jersey, like an hour away from our school. Bro, when I tell you we was together, we did the things that we did, but like everything just never worked out the way it was supposed to. Like, I didn't think I was supposed to have her. She was like, kind of like, nigga, you you're not supposed to have it. You just you won. You just won right now. So I I was hype, you feel me? We was going through it, she was showing up to parties, showing up to where I DJ. This is back when polo boots was big. Somebody was going to the store, bought me two pairs of polo boots. I was in school chilling. And then we just stopped talking. Fast forward. Now mind you, I didn't move to Texas until 2015. Okay? So if my year in college was 2011. Move to Texas. I'm in a relationship. Moving on with life. Get a Facebook message like, yo, what's up? It's like what o'crack in the morning, dawg, like four in the morning. Nothing good happens at four o'clock in the morning when you get a message from somebody saying, yo, it's good. Uh level. Shorty, I was right at the time she seen that shit, start going crazy. And I'm like, I don't even know what this is, bro. Like, let me just figure it out. Come to figure it out. Shorty moved to motherfucking Houston, dawg. Talking about, you're the only person that I know that lives here. I would love to see if we could be friends and you know just get together and talk and stuff. And I'm like, uh kind of in a relationship now. She's like, no, it's not like that. And I'm like, it's not gonna be like that to her. I was gonna say, hey, you uh feel like that way.
SPEAKER_01To her, she was like, what you doing? You feel me? Especially because you started you started it out with writing me at four o'clock in the morning. So from then on out, she ain't heard none of that.
SPEAKER_02Cool. So now all the bad shit going on in my relationship. I worked at this the strip club called Karma. Karma used to be Houston's V Live. Biggest strip club in Houston. You feel me? Cool. I'm doing my security shit in the back. Now, nigga, it's dark. Ain't no strip club got lights. Now I know I'm light skinned, and I know you I'm big as fuck, and you can see me.
SPEAKER_03But guess what the fuck dog doing?
SPEAKER_02Ain't no way. And so the dog, what are you doing here? She's like, ha ha ha. I just knew you worked here. How? How? But what? How? How you know I worked there? I was just coming to see you, you know, just to see, because I told you I just wanted to hang out. I'm like, yo, first of all, you know, the time I get off here, first time at work, I get off at six in the morning, and then I'm going home to my girl. What are you talking about, bro? Uh, I could just stay here with you at your job while you work.
SPEAKER_03No, you can't. Do you know where I do you not see what's going on here? They're gonna ask me on the microphone, like, who are you? You need to move around.
SPEAKER_02So she did just that. Dog, dog at the job, dog. At the job. Boom. Now the night over. I get my money, walk everybody to their car, doors are closed. Who's still in the fucking parking lot? So I gave in. I talked 20 minutes. Even told my shorty about it. Hey, she showed up here. I'm gonna get rid of her, and I'm coming home. Yeah. Little did I know, the big part of this widow story. If I would have broke up with the woman that I was with to go ahead and just go that way, not saying that that would have worked out or anything. So whoever's listening, before you go crazy, this was not this is not me trying to get this person at all. This was I would not have been put through all the stuff that I got put through in 2019 to 2025. Now, granted, something beautiful came out of it. Yep, yep, yep. I already know what that is. Yep. But that that's my what if. Like, what if I didn't didn't tell her and I would have just just went to breakfast with the person like they wanted me to.
Why What Ifs Haunt Us
SPEAKER_01Yeah, see, that's the thing about the what ifs is because you don't know how it's really gonna play out. Because just because, like with me in my situation, just because even me and her, we kind of was like, we always gonna be a thing, even if we ain't a thing. But what if just because we always gonna be a thing, we always gonna be a thing because we don't know what we would have been. If me and her, let's say we worked it out when we first started talking, who's to say we would still be together today?
SPEAKER_02Who's to say something horrible when it came out of it?
SPEAKER_01What else can that's the thing about what else? They're always it's the question mark. That's what makes them what they are is because it's the uh it's the unanswered question. So I'm gonna let's go back to the feelings of the situations. In those what else? Is there anything that you regret?
SPEAKER_02Uh regret. Well they say regret is because like the nigga who I am right now compared to those situations, I feel as though like I'm so much smarter to not even be in the what-if situations anymore, or things like that. So all feelings aside, I'm glad that they're living a life. You feel me? I'm living mine. I got somebody special that has come into my life from a what-if situation. So, you know, I I can't be a man, you feel me? I can't.
SPEAKER_01So the thing I would say with me is my is okay. The thing I regret obviously is sending the picture. Like I feel like that's without without saying I regret saying sending the picture. But the thing, the other thing I regret is, you know, I sit up for this one. So the other thing I regret is holding holding on to it for as long as I did, because it prevented me from taking the next situation. Seriously, because I kept holding out hope. Because in my head, which it was when she said, like, you never left my mind, basically. It made me feel better because it's in my head. I'm like, it was something, nerd. It was supposed to be something. It just wasn't the right time and situations to happen. But the next situation, I kind of didn't put all my eggs in that basket because of the simple fact I was still looking in the past at that previous, at that what if. So I end up creating another what if.
SPEAKER_02Because of a what if.
SPEAKER_01Because of a what if.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_01I create and I that person had all the potential in the world. And but I couldn't get over the land situation. Because in my head, I'm still thinking, man, I'm supposed to be with her. Because even at that point, like the first couple months after we had we had basically officially quit talking, we still was kind of talking. I wasn't seeing her, but we were still talking regular. So it's like, man, I'm supposed like I'm still holding out hope, like, hey, she's gonna come around and everything gonna come up come about, right? Like it's supposed to be, but it never did. So then, like I said, I created another what if because of another what if. And then I end up, I won't say traumatized or created trauma for another person, but I end up giving another person heart uh heartache because of another what if. Okay, so that those that is the two things I regret that being said. You know, life happens. You live and you learn every day, yeah. So that's the best of it. You know, um so I had the conversation and I was like, man, I'm gonna do a pod about this. And they was like, don't talk bad about me. Like, man, I ain't gonna talk bad about you.
SPEAKER_02Ain't nobody gonna even know who you are, bro. We ain't about to say your name. He said it in the beginning of the pod.
SPEAKER_01Don't say names on pods, G. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02And then we and like now we in a we in a cool space, so I'm definitely not about to say your name on this joke.
SPEAKER_01I'm not really throwing. I I ain't even gonna throw no shade. You feel me? Everything everything played out in the way that it happened, it is what it is. You move on, and then you go on, hey, you know, you go on about that. Uh let me ask you this though.
What We Owe Past People
SPEAKER_01Then it's gonna get personal. Okay. If you can say it ain't even gotta be the what if you sure, but if it's a what if that's in your past, what would be something you say to that person now?
SPEAKER_02Honestly, nothing anymore, bruh. Cause it's like if it's alright, in the situation that I'm in right now, and who I'm dealing with, I'm cool. You feel me? Like, I don't need to to revisit anything. All of y'all are a what if that I thought about, cared about for a little bit, threw that shit up out the window. Got more shit in my fucking basket that I need to take care of compared to thinking about like dang, what would I say to this person? I'm gonna say shit to y'all niggas no more, yo. Fuck it. That shit that shit done. You you might be able to get a fucking hire. You might, you might.
SPEAKER_01Ain't you no guarantee? Are you no guarantee on that? No, fuck no. Fuck no.
SPEAKER_02Let me tell you why. Because first of all, a lot of what ifs in my head at the age that we are are either married, still with their baby daddy, or out here doing god knows what. You live and love the life that you have. I'm gonna live my life, I'm gonna hug on the person I hug on, I'm gonna lay next to the person I lay next to, I'ma hold her. Uh fuck all y'all. The what if is null and void, motherfucker. We here. She is what if, and the what if was granted, and we here happy.
SPEAKER_01Ah, see, the thing with me is my and what I would say is if I'm gonna speak on that situation, I already said it all. So that's everything I ever wanted to say to that person, I said.
SPEAKER_02Sugarcoating shit, nigga.
SPEAKER_01We ain't gonna build there's no point of sugarcoating shit. And the thing is, I'm gonna open the book too. I'm gonna keep it all the way above. If I feel a way about something, I'm gonna say it. If I like something, I'm gonna say it. If I don't like something, I'm gonna say it. What I meant is what I said. I had already everything I ever wanted to tell. Like I said, with me sending the picture or whatever. Hey, I was intoxicated. My all my stuff, but I am genuine. I am everything I did for you was genuine. Everything I ever said, I meant, you know what I mean? I already said all that. So that's why I'm like, ain't really no more, it ain't really nothing else for me to say because I already said it all. I'm gonna say it then, I'm gonna say, and that's just gonna be it.
SPEAKER_02Thanks. Uh you like it, you like it. If you don't, sorry, this is my truth.
SPEAKER_01I was getting right saying, at least you know my truth. At least that. Um, do you have a what if that taught you something that gave you a life lesson that you want to remember forever?
When A What If Returns
SPEAKER_02Right now, I'm dealing with it right now. So, not to give too much of what's going on, bruh, but I dated this person and we went out on a couple dates, and she literally told me, like, hey, what you looking for is not what I'm looking for right now, bruh. So I can't do this, I'm not trying to drag you along, none of that. So I was like, cool. I gracefully bowed out. You feel me? Wasn't I wasn't hype, wasn't going on for her. I was just like, no problem. Months later, got a random hey, and at first I didn't know what to do with it, yeah. Because I didn't know who it was at first. I'm not even gonna hold you.
SPEAKER_01I was gonna say, hold on, wait a minute, tell me I'm when I got the Snapchat message, and I was like, I don't know what to do with it. He was like, nah, you knew what to do with it. I was like, No, I don't know what to do.
SPEAKER_02I didn't know who it was at first, I got scared, like I thought it was a scam, and then next thing you know, everything came through. And now a month later, we we good. You feel me? Niggas is happy. It's it it taught me just basically from the beginning like don't be counting everybody out because like just because somebody not ready right now, if they have the availability to just like communicate that instead of just oh, I'm not doing this, bye. Like you she communicated with me, she told me what was up. I I I was able to be a grown-up and take it as a grown-up, but now it's just like kind of little spit about this one, you feel me? No, no, no, she she touched a soft spot for a nigga, you feel me? So that's a lesson I learned. I learned that you can't carry everybody out just because you feel as though like this person is telling you what it is in the beginning. You can sit there and be like, damn, but what if we got together? You know, think about it for a little bit, see what happens. If I if it don't happen, the what if is null and void. If it does happen, your what if just got granted. Figure it out, see how, see what the what if was like. Once you figure that out, I promise you, your day is gonna be easy, it's gonna come to you like nothing. Cause it comes to me like nothing now. She's amazing. You feel me? So I found out my what if. My what if was actually granted, and it could turn out to be amazing, it could turn out to be something else, but I just happened to find the good side of this what if.
SPEAKER_01So I have a bunch of what if lessons that I was told. Oh man, uh let me start, especially because you you you when you was talking, tell it just tell that little bit right there. I came up with two more what ifs in my head, and what if was a lesson? Uh so let me let me let me go and order her. The lesson that okay, the what if that I had already been talking about, the lesson that I taught from that was at some point you gotta let bygones be bygones and go on about your day. Okay, like at some point, it you you holding on to something's gonna end up hurting you in the long run. So just let it go. That ain't no shade to nobody. Let me say that. Ain't no shade to nobody, but sometimes you gotta let stuff go so you can move on. So you end up hurting yourself. Then, like I said, I end up hurting somebody else in that run. Uh then you brought up people saying what they want in the beginning. Here's my what if the what if lesson I was taught from that was a person to say that and then do everything else that's like you know, relationship type stuff, and still be like, hey, I don't, but at this time, I don't want I don't want this. Like the lesson I taught from that was well, you better be careful because they still still pay attention to what they say, not so much to what they do. Because I learned that lesson because I was paying attention to what they was doing. Brother was eating good, sex was good, we vibing. I'm thinking it's something more than what it is, but then at the end of the day, that person still like, nah, I don't want I don't want a relationship, I don't want none of this.
SPEAKER_02Well, she hit you with a Tyler, but we friends uh look, Teddy.
SPEAKER_01I hit her before, but she had said that, and then I gave her one more try. I was like, hey, I'm about to look, I'm about to start getting serious with somebody else. You sure? Yeah, I'm sure. I cool, I respect it. Remember me to tell you that off pie is more to that story, but we're gonna say it for you know it's more to that, but then then uh you stop like current situations.
Mature Dating With Clear Boundaries
SPEAKER_01I had my current relationship was created off of what if because I was oh when I'm dating, I'll tell you like, hey, I'm dating other people, so don't when I tell you is we exclusive, or you come to me and say, Let's be exclusive, we had that conversation, cool. But until then, I'm dating other people. I ain't sleeping with everybody, but I'm dating other people.
SPEAKER_02Hold on, before you go any further, y'all hear y'all hear what he just said? He said he's dating and not sleeping with other people. So just so y'all understand out there, there are men that are out here that are dating and not just fucking everybody that they date, okay. So I just wanted to make sure that that was mainline and mainstream because men get the worst rap in the world when people hear the word, oh, you're dating. No, that means you're just fucking everybody. No, it doesn't. Okay, it does not mean that.
SPEAKER_01It doesn't mean that just like you said, I'm capable of having conversations and getting to know somebody without sticking my penis in them. I don't I don't think that's I don't think that's too crazy. Uh personally, I don't I don't think that's too crazy. We we as as mature men, we can do that because but we also the men that's looking for more than what and just some shorty no disrespect how to obtain listen coochie cool, a nigga 99% of the time ain't gonna turn it down, okay?
SPEAKER_02Talking faces, if you got a real genuine nigga, he trying to figure out who the fuck you are. That coochie shit, that shit is just uh extra drop in the bucket. We want to know who you are to see if can I be around you while I'm sober? Are you cool enough to be around while I'm sober? When I'm fucked up, are you the person I want to be around? When I'm fucked up, are you the first person I want to call? Because I'm fucked up. Can I actually take you out on a date? Boy, come on. Can I be in public with you? Do I want you in my vehicle? Do I want your presence to walk through my front door? These are questions that we ask as a mature man, in my opinion. I don't want to be out here slipping and sliding at everything that's wet. That shit is troun. Let me say it again. That shit is terrant.
SPEAKER_01Sorry. You good. But
Parenting And The Family Test
SPEAKER_01look, that's another question that we gotta ask, especially me and you. We both parents, so I gotta be able to, in the talking stage, see if you're worthy enough for meet my child. I also gotta see if you maybe worthy is the wrong word, but it's also the right word when it comes to my child. But if I want you around my child, if I want you around my family, because I'm a very family-oriented person, I'm with my people's all the time. So I need to see if you're gonna fit in the mode. If I'm not, if I'm gonna bring you to my sister's house and my mama's there, and my mama ain't gonna give me the side eye.
SPEAKER_02I tell every woman, listen, unless I know I'm about to marry you or want to marry you, you ain't me and my mother. My mother is a New Jersey woman. That mouth ain't always nice. So I'm not about to put you in the situation, I'm not about to put her in the situation. I'ma keep the peace. Because I gotta take care of that woman if you hear or not, either way.
SPEAKER_01But you said what you said. See me, that's one of the requirements. With like I gonna say requirement, but I gotta see if you can fit in the family mode because I'm with these people. You know, football, like football is coming up. We have my sister's house every Sunday watching football. You you probably gonna won't kick it because most females they want to kick it with you all the time, whether you with your homeboys or you with your people's. All right, for us to see the twitch gonna work, I gotta bring you around my people's. Most of the time, it's just me. I store with the cousins, and I see if you if you can mingle with my the cousins that's my age, and then I bring it to my uh I bring it to my mom and my sister. That's how it always planned out. Somehow, the last three relationships or last three talking stages, my uncle seen him first. I don't know how that happened. I he he was in the car with me. I don't know. He seen him first. Said nephew. Hey, if uncle say nephew, I see you, boy. That means we got to we gotta go back to the genre. Everybody wants that stamp stamp of approval from facts, especially if we had somewhere outdoors, man, because unc always gonna be allowed.
SPEAKER_03That's who that's you, yeah.
SPEAKER_01If if unc if your uncle don't say, is that you?
SPEAKER_02You gotta go. Like you, you you really gotta go. Yeah, yeah. You you fucking how unks uncles could come in all ages. You need at least one. Yep, one of them. How old are you? You need one to just be like, That's you, and they gotta smile out there too. Cause sometimes uncons be saying that's you and being like, uh, all right.
SPEAKER_01You want the positive, that's you, not the you you want the hype one, like that's you, yeah, not the uh that's you. Okay, all right. Hey, if you like it, I love it. You feel me? If you can hit what I you hey, you know what I mean? But but now back to my current.
Confidence That Changes Your Choice
SPEAKER_01We uh we like I said, we we talking. I was going, I had another day planned. Everybody know, like Wednesday through Saturday, I got the key. So I'll be chilling. Sundays, it's football time, I'm down with the family. So my date days is Monday and Tuesday. I told her, I said, my current relationship, I said, Hey, uh, next Tuesday, what you doing? You won't kick it. She said, Yeah, that's fine. We planned the date. And then before we left, she said, So what you doing next Monday? I was like, eh, you know, I got some stuff going on. I said, she said, Oh, that's what's up. That's cool because you know, whoever you talking to ain't gonna amount to what we got. So you can go ahead and do that. I was like, huh, that's what's up. So my what if is the the what if that led me to this situation is because it was Sunday and I'm looking at the phone like, do I text the person I'm supposed to kick it with on Monday? And you know, you know, set up the reminder, like, hey, you know, we still we still lined up for this. But it was something about when a person says, now you go ahead and do that, because I know I'm better.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, it makes you sit back and be like, what you know that I don't know, yo, like teddy, because that's what I did, and plus it's the cock, it's the cocky confidence for me.
SPEAKER_01That's what that's one of my turnoffs. We one of these ladies about to talk about turn uh non-sexual turnoffs. We're gonna have to have non-sexual turnoffs.
SPEAKER_02I'm right there with you, yo. Like that's gonna be that's my noble war. So show me show me you about this. Where that's how you feel?
SPEAKER_01Bet so you you we so go ahead and do that. Yeah, I'll see you on Tuesday. Uh yeah, nah, let's just say I didn't go on a date with another person on Monday, and I did hit her with the what you doing, you trying to hug me.
SPEAKER_02Cause nigga, that right there, yo, on some real shit. I feel as though that's one of the sexiest things a woman could do that's non-sexual. Like, like that that cocky fucking assholeness, like, yeah, nigga, whatever. My favorite one, tell that bitch what my pussy tastes like. Ma'am, I will, but damn, god damn, could have been more subtle about it.
SPEAKER_00Look, keep it above.
SPEAKER_01We grown at her, hey, we know what it is. Nah, yeah, tell her what I said too. You know what I mean? Hey, that like you said, the cockiness, the arrogance. Hey, they're gonna hold you, boy. It's gotta do something, it's gonna do something. Look, man, tell you we're gonna have to set up the next pie because we are ready. Because that's that's the next one. Non-sexual turn off, that's gonna be the next pie. But uh, before we get out of here, one more question about what ifs. All right,
Are You Somebody’s What If
SPEAKER_01do you think you somebody's what if?
SPEAKER_02Oh shit. If I am do what you lost.
SPEAKER_00That's a perfect way to end it, right? That's the perfect way to end it. Hey man, Teddy, I appreciate it, man.
SPEAKER_02Always, man. Always, man.
SPEAKER_01Hey man, thank y'all for listening to another episode of Hold Up in another thing presented by Miss Vaz Media. Y'all already know the Vaz, your boy, Mr. Ben, aka say your name up on his pie. Might not with you to my y'all be easy.
